So many experiences cited here feel universal—the selfishness of early adulthood is apparent. The fact that you’re still a block of marble that must let events chisel away pieces of yourself until a finished you emerges. It is habitual to find yourself in the pages of a memoir, to parse and parallel your own past with the words. But something here–it was the Foucault quote, actually–made me pause. The palpable sadness, beyond the tepid wistfulness of age, shook me up. There was a longing for a set point in time—a specific and calcified time— that I’ve never known myself. It was directly after, “How to leave him alone without abandoning him?” that I finally looked at the back cover, almost idly, and caught words like “elegy” and “grief” before I looked away. Something is going to happen. Something bad.
Read MoreI hated being a lawyer, and I was never very skilled at it, but that thought of someone saying to me, “I thought you were supposed to be a lawyer” in response to legal questions I answered partially or not at all truly terrified me. It is why I always tried to position myself as an outsider: A person who wanted to be in graduate school for creative writing during law school; a person who was only running long distances to get better at rowing; someone writing book reviews just to help me remember what I’ve read. No, I was just too scared to admit that I was running to run, or writing to be read. That fear, knowing it exists in other people?
Read MoreAs individual essays, they’re fun to read. As a collection—one in which I felt personally invested, thanks to the parasocial nature of social media—I would recommend taking them more slowly than the library allowed me.
Read MoreThe underpaid office worker bildungsroman hits too close to home for me. It probably strikes the majority of my age demographic. Any book burnished by The New Yorker’s indelible house style has space in my heart. Whatever the case, I went into Uncanny Valley thinking it was a book for me, and as I read each page they proved that assumption, 200 times over:
I was perhaps still afflicted by the shortsightedness of someone whose skill set was neither unique nor in high demand. A sense of my own disposability had been ingrained since working in the publishing industry, and quitting without a plan was unfathomable. Every month since graduation was accounted for on my resume. Sabbaticals, for anyone other than a college professor, were a novel concept, and one I could not trust.
When it moved away from the intensely relatable and started branching wide in what felt like an attempt to carve out a cultural moment writ large, it lost the unique voice in favor of demotivational poster clichés:
Read MoreNobody was guaranteed any future, I knew. But for those who seemed to be emerging from the wreckage victorious--namely, those of us who had secured a place in an industry that had steamrolled its way to relevance—the meritocracy narrative was a cover for lack of structural analysis. It smoothed things out. It was flattering, and exculpatory, and painful for some people to part with.